NLP, is created to help yourself and to be there for others. The most important thing that you should know is, though NLP can be used as a dangerous weapon in the wrong hands, yet this is not the objective of my course. You will find no relevant materiel to malicious ways of using NLP.
CHAPTER I: Rapport and Senses equity
A beautiful thing about NLP is that that you are always learning with others even if they are not aware of it, your companionship is always interesting time ^^
In order to make a use of your knowledge, and to share it with anyone, you’ll have to build bridges of coherence and trust, or else you may face rejection from your audience. Bridges of trust are what we call a rapport.
Rapport is a French word; its literal translation is relation. So you better understand what makes a good relationship workout between you and your audience ^^ because there is no standard attitude. Sometimes it’s easy to create, sometimes it’s not! That’s what makes the beauty of NLP, is that you are always in a challenge, because people are not the same.
The job of any mentor is to give you the tools that you should pay attention to, while you are creating your relationships.
A) How can you build a rapport with others?
1) Rules:
- Breathe in calm rhythmic way; breathe in a comfortable way, slowly.
- Face your audience while you are addressing them your message.
- Your look and smell, matters!
2) Steps to follow:
- Calm your (Client, student ...) breathing. Because you need to understand their needs, you want to insure them that they are in a safe place now.
- Echo or parallel the person’s posture and movements. Don’t mimic their gestures, but you need to take a position of an interested listener, even if the conversation is about something you consider silly it may not be the case to the others, and after all you are here for them!
- Match the kinds of words your interlocutor uses: If your interlocutor says that he/she can‘t clearly pictures the outcome, you should match the visual words so they will see the clearly visualize the conclusion. You will answer her using visual words like: I see what you are talking about, or I see how hard it is for you.
3) Go over everything your interlocutor said, while being centered, relaxed and positive.
B) How to increase your Sensory acuity? VAKOG
You can’t give a right answer no matter how smart you are if you don’t know what the question is. You are supposed to hear, feel and assist your interlocutor to find peace of mind. Increasing your sensory acuity is increasing your ability of gathering the right information.
For the following exercises, you will need the assistance of a friend or two.
1) How to enhance your kinesthetic awareness?
Like any other sense, the kinesthetic sense can be improved with practice and training. Following are some exercises that can help develop the kinesthetic sense.
- Set down with your friends and ask them to touch a knee f yours, each at a time and to say his name, for 2 or three times, enough to calibrate your kinesthetic awareness.
- Close your eyes to access a highly calm charged kinesthetic state; get tuned with your body.
- While your eyes are closed, start testing your kinesthetic awareness. Whenever a friend of yours touches a knee, you should call his name. Repeat the process on another part of your body.
- Stretch the exercise: this time the touches should be as close to the same space as possible.
2) How to enhance your auditory sense?
In this exercise you want to access a vivid auditory state.
- Ask each of your two friends produces simple sounds: claps, finger snaps, hand rubbing anything that can be done on the spot.
- Close your eyes to access a highly calm charged auditory state, getting tuned with your body.
- While your eyes are closed, start testing your auditory awareness. Once one of your friends makes claps, call out his name.
- Doing this experiment ask your friends to change positions without telling you, so that your auditory awareness develops itself.
3) How to enhance your visual sense?
You want the to access a very clear visual state.
- Set down with your friend, and take a good look at him; you may spend the next 2 minutes doing nothing but looking at him and what he is wearing carefully.
- Now you will close your eyes, and try to get tuned with your elf.
- Your friend will change something about his wearing or his hairdressing. It might be a major change or a small one, but the objective is not to make you lose, the challenge must be done in the spirit of education!
- When you open your eyes you should find out what was the change ^^
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